There are various gradients of getting a loved one to seek help when it is obvious that they are addicted to drugs ad alcohol. There is nothing more heartbreaking than seeing a loved one just destroy their lives and you can become helpless and feel that there is nothing you can do to change the course of the addict’s life.
There is a philosophy that an addict must hit rock bottom and that they must really want treatment before it will do any good. That is absolutely true if the treatment is no good. However if the treatment is long term and individualized, an addict will get well even if he was pressured to go. No one want to be trapped with addiction, but taking step of “breaking up” with the drug is really hard when they are in the thrown of addiction.
When you have tried everything to get a person to agree to help and treatment, including doing a family intervention and the addict still does not agree to get help, it is time to find a professional interventionist. A professional interventionist is someone who is trained to come to your home or the home of the addict and help get him or her to agree to go to treatment.
A very strict rule about any intervention is that it must be kept secret from the addict. The element of surprise for the addict is a very important part of the intervention. Do not tell anyone that you do not completely trust to keep the secret. Interventions can go terribly wrong and be a waste of time and money of the addict is tipped of by someone that it is going to happen.
They will usually meet with the family and friends, where appropriate, to get the information on the addict, the family and what has been going on. Then plan out the intervention and how it is to be done. You must get agreement with the interventionist on the type of treatment and making it long term.
Just as when you do a family intervention, you must have your treatment program picked out so there is a place for the interventionist to take the addict immediately once he has agreed to get help. You want to pick a long term drug treatment facility, because statistics have shown that short term (30 days or less) is not successful).
Some treatment programs have their own interventionists. If the program you have chosen does not have their own interventionists on staff, it is usually best to get a recommendation from the treatment program you have chosen. That is best because you want to have an interventionist who is knowledgeable about thedrug treatment center so that he can tell the addict about how he can get well in that particular longterm drug treatment program.
There are some points to watch out for when choosing an interventionist. You want someone who is experienced and can present references. Watch for exorbitant prices. Talk to the interventionist and feel him or her out as to care and patience to listen. As in any field, you will find interventionists who are really just out to collect a fee.
Interventionists who has been addicts themselves and had success with the particular treatment center you have chosen are often more successful than someone who has no personal experience with addiction. The addict who needs to be convinced to go to treatment will often respond better to someone who has been in his shoes and who can be an example of treatment success.
Once you have your treatment program picked out and have decided on an interventionist, the next step is planning the intervention with the interventionist.
Work out who will be part of the intervention. It must be people who truly care for the addict and who is the least likely to get into heavy confrontation.
Time and place for he intervention needs to be decided upon. The interventionist will help decide on the best place and the best time where it is known that the addict will be in a certain place or can be gotten to show up somewhere.
Everyone’s roles need to be planned out so that when the intervention is taking place, there is no confusion about who does what. Everyone participating must be on the same page and not have any disagreements about the process.
The consequences to be presented to the addicts if he or she refuses to go to treatment must be worked out. Again, any good interventionist will be helpful in working out consequences that are realistic that that everyone can agree to and be willing to carry out.
Let the interventionist take the lead in the planning as he or she will know what may be most effective. However, you must be in agreement with the process and consequences.
With very good and thorough planning, an intervention will most often be successful. An addict always has the wish inside himself to get help and get out of the trap. The addict is often afraid of withdrawal symptoms, do not believe he can get well and has other considerations. However, if he is truly shown that there is a way out and good treatment available, he will often be relieved and grasp the opportunity.
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